Practice

Going deeper, earlier

Say the real answer, not the polite one. Then leave room for hers.

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Showing you were listening

Say it back to her in your own words before you try to fix it.

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Asking follow-up questions

Ask about the thing she just said, before the topic moves.

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Watching yourself on video

Film two minutes of yourself. Write what you expect. Then press play.

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Cutting the post-mortem

Break the replay tonight. Don't wait for it to burn out.

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Putting your attention outward

Watch her face. Stop watching yourself.

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Dropping safety behaviours

Go on the date without the drink, the rehearsed lines and the phone in your hand.

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Designing exposures that disprove a prediction

Write down what you expect to go wrong, then go and find out.

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Structured exposure for approach anxiety

Approach on purpose, several times a week, and change the setting every time.

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Porn and sexual function

Stop blaming porn for your erections and get your mood and your health checked.

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Pelvic Floor Therapy

Train your pelvic floor, but find out if it's tight before you start squeezing.

Drive · Practice

Riding

Buy the certified helmet and the ABS before you buy anything else on the bike.

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