Facial hair
Grow whatever the men around you don't have. Scarcity is doing the work.
New Heroes
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Losing body fat
Take the fat off your waist, not weight off the scale. Your face shows it first.
Lifting for how you look
Lift for how strong you look, not for how big you get.
Being the one who walks over
Cross the room. You won't feel ready first, and you don't need to.
Making her laugh
Drop the bit. Take her last line and push it one step further.
Going deeper, earlier
Say the real answer, not the polite one. Then leave room for hers.
Showing you were listening
Say it back to her in your own words before you try to fix it.
Asking follow-up questions
Ask about the thing she just said, before the topic moves.
Watching yourself on video
Film two minutes of yourself. Write what you expect. Then press play.
Cutting the post-mortem
Break the replay tonight. Don't wait for it to burn out.
Dropping safety behaviours
Go on the date without the drink, the rehearsed lines and the phone in your hand.